What is the purpose
Each of us has a purpose, a what for. It is important to explore what moves us and act accordingly; behind everything we do, each activity or profession, find the meaning that resonates with who we really are. Start by answering these questions:
- What do you want to invest your time and energy in?
- Why do you get up every morning?
- What gives you pleasure?
It's good to think of purpose as a path. If every step we took in life was marking a mark, then our purpose would indicate us the North. In that way, making decisions in life is easier because it implies understanding whether each of the things you decide is related to your purpose or not. Your purpose doesn't have to be great., if not, Conversely, something achievable to guide and motivate you. For example, your purpose does not have to be to end poverty and hunger in the world, but it could be to do your bit to help in this regard, doing little things like sponsoring a boy on his way to school or cooking meals for a cafeteria. It is better to take small sustainable steps over time than to paralyze ourselves by setting ourselves very ambitious goals..
Because it is important
“Because it is not the same as living, honor life“, sing the tango of Eladia Blázquez, and synthesizes very clearly the importance of having a purpose in our lives, whatever its magnitude, importance or significance. In other words, it would be something like: let's take advantage of life, What footprint do we want to leave?, How do we want to be remembered? Because living is not the same as honoring life. Honoring life is living it with intensity and giving meaning to the things we do.
There are people who manage to align their daily activity with their life purpose, but, in many other cases, the work task is not what we yearn for, although it can be complemented with other activities that fill our soul, to help us carve a footprint of which we are proud. They can be small actions, how to collaborate with a foundation, separate and recycle waste, grow your own food, rescuing animals from the street or any pursuit that relates to your purpose. “Ask yourself if what you are doing today will bring you closer to the place you want to go“, Walt Disney said, and the phrase resonates in every line of this note.
How to discover yours
To discover your purpose, you have to connect with your essence first, with your bases, who are you with and what is good for you. But of course, It is not an easy task. There is a story that graphs it well. Says there were two eagles chatting:
“–¿Cuál es el destino de las águilas? -The realization, enjoy every moment of life. Be happy, reach the top of the mountain.
–Why are you here then? Why don't we try to get to the top of the mountain?
-Here I have never felt satisfied (…) pero esta situación da seguridad y con esto estoy conforme”.
And then, in that story, one of the eagles finally gathers courage to pursue his purpose. Tries several times, analyzing different paths and alternatives, and begins to ascend the mountain. At the end, when it reaches the top, look down and remember many difficult moments, but note also that I had always decided to move on, surpassing herself. And the story goes on: “Luego fue en busca de la otra águila y le contó lo vivido. When he heard what she was telling him, asked him: ‘All that potential, that spirit of freedom and that security that you have, Where do i find them?’. The Eagle, serene and self-confident, I answer: 'INSIDE YOU, AMIGA, INSIDE YOU!’”.
Why do we tell you this story from the book The Search, by Alfonso Lara Castilla? Because defining your purpose sounds easy, but it involves a challenge. The path that must be traveled to achieve this requires effort, will and commitment.
Claves para definir tu “PARA QUÉ”
- Identify what are the personal values that define you. The ones that bring you closest to achieving your life purpose. Being clear about what they are, You could see if these values are reflected in your daily task and include in your agenda those that you are not practicing. Specific, align your daily activity with your purpose. This search often requires enhancing certain skills, but, at the same time, also silence or mute certain others. No nacimos “hechas a medida” de nuestro propósito, Therefore, it requires that we encourage ourselves to face the process and learn to grow with it..
- No te compares con los demás. No pienses que ellos son más exitosos o que ganan más dinero o que tienen su vida totalmente resuelta. The reality is that life is a constant learning process and each one of us is going her own way and learning.. Our purpose in life is simply not found or discovered, but it is being built.
- Permitite probar cosas nuevas. Muchas personas viven insatisfechas y no hacen nada al respecto, complaining about their situation, without trying to modify what produces it. Looking for alternatives that we are interested in experiencing is the best way to take advantage of our free time and will expand the range of possibilities to incorporate into our life purpose. Develop curiosity. Research everything that catches your attention, get out of your comfort zone and open up to new possibilities, that you may never have thought of.
Is having a purpose going to make me happier?
Neuroscientist Facundo Manes states that, according to scientific studies, factors like money, luck, the image and the place of birth provide only the 10% of happiness. A 50% is associated with genetic predispositions and 40% the rest is in our hands. The 40% it's a lot. So, having a purpose can help us seize opportunities that come our way and see more clearly if what we do brings us closer to achieving our goals. As expressed by Robert Louis Stevenson, “la vida no es siempre una cuestión de tener buenas cartas, sino de jugar bien una mala mano”.
In first person
The 9 of January of 2006 I started my activities like so many others: resigned to lose 9 hours of doing something I didn't enjoy. Escuchaba el tic tac del reloj y pensaba en todo lo que estaba pasando “fuera de la oficina”. I already had an engineering degree and worked in a renowned company, and, Of course, giving up to jump into the abyss was ridiculous. But that day I got a call. They told me that my grandmother had been admitted again, and I asked permission to go visit her. My boss said no. So, I got paralyzed: What price was she willing to pay for a life she didn't choose? Frené, I thought and made one of my most significant decisions: put what is really important above all. I quit and went to visit her, I spent a beautiful afternoon with her and, the next day, passed away.
Since that day, my goal in each decision was to choose what I want to invest my time in. I stopped being a spectator of my life to become a protagonist. I understood that the only person we are going to live with every day is ourselves. So, today, every time I face some new challenge, I wonder if it will bring me closer to the place I want to get to or if it resembles the ticking of the office clock.
After discovering my purpose that day I quit my job, I also proposed to transmit that search for what for. So, from the consulting firm that I founded and run for more than 10 years, DINKA, I help others to take a leap in their companies or ventures and to start their projects, to be possible, before I hit a trigger that hurts, an extreme situation like it happened to me.
Por Sandra Felsenstein
Fundadora y Directora de DINKA